tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1209220937063434171.post5522627777496382064..comments2023-07-26T05:48:07.472-04:00Comments on Papa Pat Rambles: Smart adults who were smart kidsHabakkuk21http://www.blogger.com/profile/11928724752057162332noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1209220937063434171.post-54532901199960493162016-11-03T01:39:54.309-04:002016-11-03T01:39:54.309-04:00My parents were so good, it took me a long time to...My parents were so good, it took me a long time to realize they were also bad for me.<br /><br />I spent a bit of time in therapy with my therapist telling me they were not absolutely right, and not even right necessarily for their time period. They were loving parents - they tried - but it didn't take with me in some major categories, and they still did a heck of a job.<br /><br />Now that I realize they were humans, burdened with five utterly different daughters, and doing the best they could to feed us and educate us and vet our boyfriends, I appreciate them a lot more. <br /><br />That they didn't realize their eldest had other needs - that's life. I've filled those myself, but I'm grateful I found someone to talk to, because I had a hard time letting them be just human.<br /><br />Good parents do the best they can - under very stressful circumstances: no baby comes with an instruction manual and readouts, and the world they're are going to live in when they're adults is no longer the same world their parents are trying to navigate.<br /><br />It's all good. But there were a lot of things I did differently, since I married someone like me in many things, and the kids turned out similar to us in a lot of respects.<br /><br />But I still miss my daddy, and love my mother, who is 93, still with us but not able to communicate. And I wouldn't have traded them for any parents I knew.ABEhrhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17211038591900883672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1209220937063434171.post-27182313818993486842016-07-28T06:34:00.944-04:002016-07-28T06:34:00.944-04:00My mother was a wise woman. When I told her that I...My mother was a wise woman. When I told her that I'd listed all of the mistakes that she and my Dad made, and would avoid all of them - she said: "That's nice. That means you'll only make all of the other nine hundred ninety-nine thousand mistakes."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com