tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1209220937063434171.post2067169670148596672..comments2023-07-26T05:48:07.472-04:00Comments on Papa Pat Rambles: The Answers to the Biggest Questions Will Be Found HereHabakkuk21http://www.blogger.com/profile/11928724752057162332noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1209220937063434171.post-59956991517536535262018-07-08T08:41:18.700-04:002018-07-08T08:41:18.700-04:00I used to think of love as infatuation plus friend...I used to think of love as infatuation plus friendship over time. If time was 0 all you had was infatuation. However, I really like your point about commitment. Laura Montgomeryhttp://lauramontgomery.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1209220937063434171.post-82365817726309857172018-07-07T17:39:07.922-04:002018-07-07T17:39:07.922-04:00I was going to talk more about the commitment part...I was going to talk more about the commitment part today, but the time got away from me. <br />In a nutshell, I maintain that it is the CHOICE, not the EMOTION, that really defines love. <br />That has NEVER been understood by the culture I grew up in. In our formative years, we had the movie 'Love Story,' with the popular quote 'Love means never having to say you're sorry,' which is an UTTERLY bogus sentiment, and the song 'Love the One You're With,' with the incomparable Crosby, Stills and Nash singing those beautiful harmonies "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with," an also utterly bogus and destructive concept.<br /><br />Please don't think I'm against feelings. I'm not! I think feelings are GREAT! It's just that they are temporary, and largely a function of our neurochemistry. They are absolutely the STUPIDEST basis for marriage, or even a long-term relationship, that can be found. You would be much better of having your parents arrange a marriage for you, than to decide yourself, based on your emotions. <br />More later.<br />Habakkuk21https://www.blogger.com/profile/11928724752057162332noreply@blogger.com